Loving and caring about adult friends, family members, community members, and work colleagues is one of life’s great challenges. Because there’s no law against imploding your life. There’s no way to make someone be sober. Or to move. Or to get well. Or to leave that abusive relationship. Or to lose that weight. Or to gain that weight. Or to leave that church. Or go back to that church. Adults get to make adult decisions, even when it hurts. The key to loving someone who is hurting and self-destr